Since I’m trying to re-establish blogging as part of my busy work week, I wanted to get back to the basics this week and remind myself why my work matters. So let’s talk about the girl in the mirror and why we love her!
Worldwide, women are under pressure to meet beauty standards. Those standards are different wherever you go, and even within a culture, everyone has an opinion. That means you are never going to be everybody’s cup of tea. No body meets every beauty standard.
So where should you be focusing your energy?
Instead of conforming to your society’s standards, take a look in the mirror and see what’s there. Then, find a way to love what you see.
Easier said than done. We all have our hangups – a freckle we can’t see past, a curve we wish would shrink. You are your own worst critic, and that’s okay. We all have the potential to make changes in our lives, and as long as those changes are healthy, it’s okay to make them. Just make sure you make changes out of love for yourself, not out of pressure to conform.
So how do you love your imperfectly perfect self? Here are a few exercises for those days when the girl in the mirror isn’t living up to the standards living within you:
(1) Take “time off”
Nobody has the energy to be “on” at all times, and time off is at the heart of my self-love practice. Light a candle, power down your networking apps, and pour a glass of wine. Sink into the tub or under the covers. Open the book that’s been gathering dust on your nightstand or turn on a mindless flick. Just be.
(2) Accomplish small goals
Every morning, I make my bed, and no matter what happens during the day, I have accomplished that one, very small, goal. It sounds silly. For me, it works. No matter what else happens, I have done this one small thing for myself, and at the end of the day, I get to pull the covers back and escape.
(3) Quicken your heartbeat
Get a workout in! The amazing thing about exercise is that it works if you’re tired or if you’re too hyped up to wind down. A meaningless day that drains you of all energy or a strenuous day that wires you with stress can both be reversed with a little cardiovascular training.
(4) Phone a friend
Call someone who sees what you are having trouble seeing: you are amazing. Let them remind you of all the good you bring to the world, the enrichment you give to their life. We all need a hype man sometimes. Embrace their compliments and love!
(5) Just dance
Okay, maybe don’t dance, but do something you love! If you don’t have a hobby that you can’t talk about without smiling, it’s time to find one. Find something that makes you feel good about yourself, that lets your talents shine.
Whatever you choose to do, make sure you are keeping the outside world quiet so you can clearly hear your own needs!
How do you remind the girl in the mirror that she woke up flawless?