Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
As much as I love to be warm, there’s something about the leaves changing colors in the fall that does my soul some good. It’s been my favorite thing about the Carolinas since I moved “north” in 2012. In Georgia, we never really had four seasons, and I’ve decided it’s not as bad as I thought it would be.
Today I have a very simple message, but it’s one that I believe needs to be said. It’s one that I’ve needed to hear at points of change in my own life.
Be gentle when judging yourself. Accept changes you make in your life. Recognize that how you got to this point was an important part of your journey, but it is by no means the last chapter in your book.
We all have a construct of our personal identity. We know who we think we are, and it’s based on so very many things. Who our parents are. Where we grew up. The sports teams we cheer for. The clothes we wear. We look for people with similar identities, who don’t threaten this carefully constructed image we have in our minds. And sometimes we forget a very important truth: we don’t have to be that person.
The beauty of being human is in the ability to change. It’s easier said than done, but we don’t have to repeat our mistakes or even the mistakes of our parents. We can change our minds about who we are when we recognize a flaw, and with effort and patience, we can change our being.
Encourage positive change. We all go through seasons of highs and lows, peace and strain, certainty and confusion. Each season is preparing you for the next, teaching you how to adapt. If we were all born the same way we were going to die, life would be pretty bland. How lucky are we that there is always something to learn?
P.S. I can’t wait to start a new season in my life and have an exciting announcement about post-grad plans coming to you soon!