There’s this thing that girls do when they put on a swimsuit – they evaluate. I don’t care who you are or how much you love yourself, it is incredibly rare not to check the mirror before you hit the beach/pool. There’s nothing wrong with a little pride in your appearance. Ensuring the girls are looking good and a little “dang, girl, lookin’ fine” to yourself is great attitude prep for walking around in what is essentially underwear. The problem is when that one second glance turns into several slow minutes of serious evaluation.
I didn’t do that a year ago. Between you and me, I am the “fattest” I’ve ever been in my life today. I am also the happiest. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: healthy is physical, mental, social, and spiritual. Physically I’m not my best me, but I’m doing better on the other three than I have in past memory. But more about that some other time…
I didn’t evaluate myself in the mirror a year ago because there was no part of my physical body I was unaware of. I knew I was toned; I knew what I’d worked out the day before and that day and would work on the next. Now, it’s highly likely I skipped a couple workouts to get drinks with friends or even just because. So when I put on a bikini, it’s unknown what’s going to be jiggly or the exact state of bloat I might be in.
My roommates and I will rush back in forth to each others’ rooms before a trip to the pool trying to determine what swim suit doesn’t make us look “fat”… and this is a problem. Because none of us are by any means “fat”. We are all at a healthy BMI, perhaps higher than it once was, but by no means overweight. And this would be a problem even if we actually were overweight.
Evaluating your body is essential to knowing its current state. It helps you know what you need – for some of us that’s a large meal and for others it’s a trip to the gym. There are times when it’s essential to look at your body and see what’s there and figure it out, but when you just put on a swimsuit for a day of fun, it’s not the right time. It’s time to get tanned and boozy by a body of water!
So the next time you put on a swimsuit, regardless of your BMI and what may or may not need work, get your priorities straight. You’re putting it on to have a good time, not to work on any changes, so don’t evaluate. Instead, remind yourself that you love yourself and if that doesn’t work, live by the “if you can’t tone it, tan it!” mantra. Now go show off that bikini body!