There was a time in my life when I said I hated February 14th, but I absolutely loved to hate it. Valentine’s Day was a celebration with my gal pals – we ate chocolate, threw gummy bears at couples in movie theaters, and in later years, popped bottles. As much as we whined and complained about being single and forever alone, we were never actually alone.
Fast forward a few years… it turns out I wouldn’t be single forever. You won’t be either if you don’t want to be. I love him every day, but he gets extra attention today both for the Hallmark holiday and his birthday.
So what’s the point of this post? I guess I just want to give a little bit of completely unsolicited advice to all my single friends. And maybe even to the younger girls whose relationships with boys are so much less important than their friends (even if they don’t see that right now).
Hating Valentines Day is one of the best girlfriend activities in the world, and if you aren’t embracing it, you are seriously missing out. By embracing it, I mean pouring your heart and soul out to your friends. Laugh and cry and verbally abuse people who have done you wrong. If you’re doing it with your best friends, it’s going to turn into a beautiful memory, and all the mushy outcries are going to make you closer.
Hate on couples and romance, but immerse yourself in the love of your friends. Open your heart up and be vulnerable with the people who will stand by you at the altar one day, tears in their eyes because they know how much you prayed for the person standing across from you. Don’t harden your heart on a holiday about love. Just because you’re single now doesn’t mean you don’t or can’t love, it just means you have extra feels for your friends right now.
As thankful as I am that I have a man to do life with, when I hear my roommates talking about getting wine, cookie dough, and a chick-flick for tonight, my heart aches a little. Because as happy as I am to be in love, some of my best memories with those girls include those very things and hating on everyone who had done wrong by us. So my advice is simple: embrace the stage you’re at in life; you’re going to miss it tomorrow. If that means wine night and Magic Mike, engage in every minute of it. You might have all the romance your heart craves next year, but until then, be with people that matter today and love them with all you’ve got.
And to my beautiful roommates, thanks for having a second go round on Thursday so I can participate. Knowing a night with my best friends is only a couple of days away heals the FOMO I have about going on a romantic date tonight. Thanks for making it possible for me to have both. I can’t wait for Galentines!